“… life is sweeter if you make yourself do uncomfortable things."
~editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan magazine- Helen Gurley Brown~
Sometimes we do go through uncomfortable situations before we reach sweeter times. It is never fun, but oftentimes it is through the struggle that we find we possess the strength to succeed. If you are in the midst of "uncomfortable things," then hang on...it will get better. Just don't give up!
~Suess Karlsson~
Never give up and never quit.
Attitude – Life is 10% what you make of it
and 90% how you take it.
~Irving Berline~
Belief – Believe you can accomplish any endeavor you attempt.
It’s not what happens to you but how you react to it that matters.
Purpose – Nothing changes until something moves.
Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed.
~Dale Carnagie~
Decide the best is ahead of you.
If “will power” fails you, try “want power”.
What do you want most? Imagine the benefit of your wants.
Strive to be honest instead of right.
Goals: take the long view one day at a time.
Take the step to make the leap.
There is strength in Supporters
Be a Supporter. It will strengthen you at the same time.
Disciplined & Persistent – Finish strong
I wish for you to have a productive and happy life. Rely on positiveness to attain your wants, wishes and dreams. Keep stepping towards that goal one stair at a time. Re-remember your accomplishments, give yourself credit for them and don't just dwell on what needs to be done, just do it a little at a time.
"The victory of success is half won when one gains the habit of setting goals and achieving them.
Even the most tedious chore will become endurable as you parade through each day convinced
that every task, no matter how menial or boring, brings you closer to fulfilling your dreams."
~Og Mandino~
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Sunday, April 19, 2009
No serious lessons, just stories
This week has been a week of me versus fat. As I lose weight, funny and enlightening things happen. I received some pictures last week from Innovative Weight Loss Solutions (IWLS). It was a set of pictures of me from the front view and the profile view. One set was from my initial consult in April 2008 and the other set was April 2009. When they were sent to me I had to open them individually, so it was hard to compare. I looked at the 2009 profile and instantly thought, “My DeAnn, your stomach hasn’t progressed much.” I e-mailed Pam who is a great support to me at IWLS and told her I didn’t like the profile shot, but I am working on it. She emailed me back and told me to go to the Geary Community Hospital website (www.gchks.org) and look at my pictures under the Surgical Weight Loss section (then under pt stories & photos). She basically said they would make people sit up and take notice. So I did. WOW!!! There really is a difference. I see myself everyday and don’t see the gradual change. When I was able to see the pictures side by side, I was floored. Therefore this week has been a “me versus fat” week.
It actually started last Saturday with my weigh in. I finally made it below the 200 pound mark. Man that felt great! One more goal achieved! I will go to several different spas in town and get prices for my “day at the spa” reward.
Then it continued on Sunday. It was Easter Sunday, but it actually started 3 weeks prior. Mom was in the cedar chest getting summer clothes and came across an outfit I haven’t been able to fit into for many years. She thought I would be able to wear it, so I tried it on. Sure enough, it was a perfect fit! I thought it would be neat to save it for Easter. It would give me a new outfit to wear. So we washed it and I put it in the closet. Easter Sunday I got up and put it on. Well, I walked across the room and the pants literally fell off me. I figured no one at church would appreciate me walking down the isle and have my pants fall off, so I put another pair on with the shirt. I figured ½ a new outfit was better than the embarrassment of walking out of my pants. I went to church and one gal admired the shirt. When I went to my sister’s for Easter my mom told me the shirt was really too big. I agreed and said I was going to wash it and give the outfit to this gal that admired it. I hope it fits and she gets much enjoyment from it!
Well, later in the week I put on some pants I have been wearing for a couple of months now. I just kept getting more and more frustrated as the day went on. It was always frustrating wearing clothes that were too small and uncomfortable. Well let me tell you, wearing clothes that are uncomfortably too big is just as frustrating. So I “had” to go out today after Bible study and buy some new pants. I am 2” smaller in the waist. I put on a pair of woman’s pants and was surprised when I had to go to a size 18. The last size I knew I was wearing was 26. The WOW factor came into play again. I have gone from a 3x-5x size shirt to a 1X-2x size depending on the cut. My waist size in pants is 10” away from what I was when I was in 8th grade. I have decreased the size by 8” in 9 months. And I am just now starting to work extra hard on the abs and seeing some progress. Overall difference since June 20, 2008 in inches is a loss of: Upper Arm -3 ¾ / Chest -10 ¼ / Waist -14 ¾ / Hips -13 / Thigh -5 ¼ and Weight -95. Me versus fat!
In water aerobics one lady told me I was looking younger all the time. My neck was thinning out. I laughed. The instructor said, “DeAnn is working very hard today.” I said, “I have 60 pounds to lose.” One lady said, “Yea, but you don’t have to do it all today.” We all laughed. The support from these ladies is unreal. God has blessed me with a big strong support system.
This morning sitting at the breakfast table mom said, “If you lose 50 more pounds I am going to have to ask who you are.” I said, “Well I hope to lose that 50 in the waist and not the face.”
I had my monthly B-12 shot at the doctor’s this week. As I was walking out of the examine room (the nurse gives me my shot) my doctor was standing at the nurse’s counter. He took a double look and said, “I almost didn’t recognize you.” He hasn’t seen me since January. This week has been a week full of hearing, “You look so different.”, “I didn’t recognize you.” etc. It feels good and helps with my attitude and confidence. I feel like I am making progress. As positive as I am most of the time, it can get tough to stay that way. I progress and I waver. I need the encouragement as much as the next person. That is why I thank God daily for all the support I have; my Cell girlfriends, my parents, my family, some of my co-workers, my friends, my swim buddies and sometimes even strangers. One really big support has truly been the people at Innovative Weight Loss Solutions. I have mentioned Ronda, Pam and Jennifer before, but I can’t say enough great things about their genuine care, concern and encouragement. This leads me to the next subject.
Ronda told me she thought my weekly blog needs to be read by more people. She said she was being sincere. She gave me a website to post my blog on. It is at www.obesityhelp.com. I am just now in the process of getting it set up. As I do I will let you know. It will have the same post as the one on www.deannsinsights.blogspot.com. Which is also the same update I e-mail to you, my “Blessings” group? The only difference may be pictures in the picture album I can have on the obesityhelp blog. Ronda has been such a great support to me in the last year. She is so enthusiastic, positive, bubbly and caring. As I said all the gals at IWLS have been a godsend. I know they are only a phone call or an e-mail away. Thank you Ronda, Pam and Jennifer! (My blog has a link on the GCH website under pt testimonies tab in the weight loss services section)
I really need to thank each and every one of you in my “Blessings” group. If you are getting this, you are part of that group. You have verbally encouraged me many times. You have encouraged me via e-mail. I appreciate you more than I could ever “vocalize”. As I said, I may appear very positive, but it is hard to change a lifestyle and make it a permanent lifestyle. Considering I ain’t dead yet, I have to continue to work at it. So thank you!
Most importantly, the one I have to thank the most is God. He has brought each of you into my life at different times in my life. You have influenced me in different ways. He continues to become closer to me or maybe I should say I continue to grow closer to Him. In my cell group today I told my girlfriends that before this journey of weight loss surgery/new life I never connected all the avenues of life together. Physical, mental, emotional and spiritual were just parts of me. Well, I have discovered as I have grown (well, actually decreased in size) that all are connected and intertwined. As I grow spiritually I strengthen emotionally and mentally. As I strengthen physically I grow spiritually. As I decrease in size I increase in physical abilities and better health. As I increase in physical ability I grow in spirituality. It all connects and hopefully I can take that connectivity and influence and uplift those I come in contact with daily. I hope one of those persons is you!
Again thank you for the lessons and the stories and the ears you give me by listening to my stories.
"A thousand-mile journey begins with the first step" and can only be taken one step at a time.”
~ taken fromThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People~
It actually started last Saturday with my weigh in. I finally made it below the 200 pound mark. Man that felt great! One more goal achieved! I will go to several different spas in town and get prices for my “day at the spa” reward.
Then it continued on Sunday. It was Easter Sunday, but it actually started 3 weeks prior. Mom was in the cedar chest getting summer clothes and came across an outfit I haven’t been able to fit into for many years. She thought I would be able to wear it, so I tried it on. Sure enough, it was a perfect fit! I thought it would be neat to save it for Easter. It would give me a new outfit to wear. So we washed it and I put it in the closet. Easter Sunday I got up and put it on. Well, I walked across the room and the pants literally fell off me. I figured no one at church would appreciate me walking down the isle and have my pants fall off, so I put another pair on with the shirt. I figured ½ a new outfit was better than the embarrassment of walking out of my pants. I went to church and one gal admired the shirt. When I went to my sister’s for Easter my mom told me the shirt was really too big. I agreed and said I was going to wash it and give the outfit to this gal that admired it. I hope it fits and she gets much enjoyment from it!
Well, later in the week I put on some pants I have been wearing for a couple of months now. I just kept getting more and more frustrated as the day went on. It was always frustrating wearing clothes that were too small and uncomfortable. Well let me tell you, wearing clothes that are uncomfortably too big is just as frustrating. So I “had” to go out today after Bible study and buy some new pants. I am 2” smaller in the waist. I put on a pair of woman’s pants and was surprised when I had to go to a size 18. The last size I knew I was wearing was 26. The WOW factor came into play again. I have gone from a 3x-5x size shirt to a 1X-2x size depending on the cut. My waist size in pants is 10” away from what I was when I was in 8th grade. I have decreased the size by 8” in 9 months. And I am just now starting to work extra hard on the abs and seeing some progress. Overall difference since June 20, 2008 in inches is a loss of: Upper Arm -3 ¾ / Chest -10 ¼ / Waist -14 ¾ / Hips -13 / Thigh -5 ¼ and Weight -95. Me versus fat!
In water aerobics one lady told me I was looking younger all the time. My neck was thinning out. I laughed. The instructor said, “DeAnn is working very hard today.” I said, “I have 60 pounds to lose.” One lady said, “Yea, but you don’t have to do it all today.” We all laughed. The support from these ladies is unreal. God has blessed me with a big strong support system.
This morning sitting at the breakfast table mom said, “If you lose 50 more pounds I am going to have to ask who you are.” I said, “Well I hope to lose that 50 in the waist and not the face.”
I had my monthly B-12 shot at the doctor’s this week. As I was walking out of the examine room (the nurse gives me my shot) my doctor was standing at the nurse’s counter. He took a double look and said, “I almost didn’t recognize you.” He hasn’t seen me since January. This week has been a week full of hearing, “You look so different.”, “I didn’t recognize you.” etc. It feels good and helps with my attitude and confidence. I feel like I am making progress. As positive as I am most of the time, it can get tough to stay that way. I progress and I waver. I need the encouragement as much as the next person. That is why I thank God daily for all the support I have; my Cell girlfriends, my parents, my family, some of my co-workers, my friends, my swim buddies and sometimes even strangers. One really big support has truly been the people at Innovative Weight Loss Solutions. I have mentioned Ronda, Pam and Jennifer before, but I can’t say enough great things about their genuine care, concern and encouragement. This leads me to the next subject.
Ronda told me she thought my weekly blog needs to be read by more people. She said she was being sincere. She gave me a website to post my blog on. It is at www.obesityhelp.com. I am just now in the process of getting it set up. As I do I will let you know. It will have the same post as the one on www.deannsinsights.blogspot.com. Which is also the same update I e-mail to you, my “Blessings” group? The only difference may be pictures in the picture album I can have on the obesityhelp blog. Ronda has been such a great support to me in the last year. She is so enthusiastic, positive, bubbly and caring. As I said all the gals at IWLS have been a godsend. I know they are only a phone call or an e-mail away. Thank you Ronda, Pam and Jennifer! (My blog has a link on the GCH website under pt testimonies tab in the weight loss services section)
I really need to thank each and every one of you in my “Blessings” group. If you are getting this, you are part of that group. You have verbally encouraged me many times. You have encouraged me via e-mail. I appreciate you more than I could ever “vocalize”. As I said, I may appear very positive, but it is hard to change a lifestyle and make it a permanent lifestyle. Considering I ain’t dead yet, I have to continue to work at it. So thank you!
Most importantly, the one I have to thank the most is God. He has brought each of you into my life at different times in my life. You have influenced me in different ways. He continues to become closer to me or maybe I should say I continue to grow closer to Him. In my cell group today I told my girlfriends that before this journey of weight loss surgery/new life I never connected all the avenues of life together. Physical, mental, emotional and spiritual were just parts of me. Well, I have discovered as I have grown (well, actually decreased in size) that all are connected and intertwined. As I grow spiritually I strengthen emotionally and mentally. As I strengthen physically I grow spiritually. As I decrease in size I increase in physical abilities and better health. As I increase in physical ability I grow in spirituality. It all connects and hopefully I can take that connectivity and influence and uplift those I come in contact with daily. I hope one of those persons is you!
Again thank you for the lessons and the stories and the ears you give me by listening to my stories.
"A thousand-mile journey begins with the first step" and can only be taken one step at a time.”
~ taken fromThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People~
Sunday, April 12, 2009
A Staple of Life
A new hair style A new car A different house A new friend
A new job A smaller budget A different routine A new lifestyle
Change!
How do you accept change? If you are like the average human being, not well. You fight it tooth and nail. You run from it as fast as you can. You procrastinate. You stand steadfast in your resolve to never change. But, change can be a good thing. You just have to see past the comfort of your perception. Am I saying change is in the perception? As a matter of fact…yes. How you perceive your current situation and how you perceive the possible change will determine your actions and acceptance.
For most of 13 years I have worked a certain shift at work. I have worked evening hours (2:30pm-10:30pm). I changed to a variation of those hours (6:30pm-2:30am). Well after much thought I changed my hours again. In considering this change I had to take into account how it would affect my availability to exercise. At this point in my life that is 1st priority. I figured I could continue to exercise and change my hours and get everything done without being rushed (which keeps my stress level down). I decided it was time to challenge myself and do something out of my comfort zone. So I bid for the day power shift at work. What this means is I work 10:30am-6:30pm. I exercise from 7am-9am and am able to shower and get to work by 10:30am. Well, the first week of this change is completed. I love it! The day seems to go by so fast. I get off work at a good time and still have time to do things in the evening I need to get done. I go to bed at a decent time and get plenty of sleep and still get up early to go exercise. If I hadn’t been open to try this change I never would have known how it would be. I actually enjoy going to work again.
Now let’s look at another major change in my life. I bucked gastric bypass surgery for 2 years. I kept doing the same things and kept getting the same results. I continued to grow larger, unhappier and less satisfied with life. When I finally “gave in” and decided to have the surgery I was sure of what I was doing. I knew I needed to do it and had the resolve to try to be successful. That doesn’t mean the changes I would have to make didn’t leave me feeling somewhat scared, uncertain of my ability and mentally guarded about failure. The pros outweighed the cons and I was able to make an intelligent decision instead of an emotional one. I made that decision with certainty that it was the right decision.
Because of that resolve, determination and step of faith I have discovered and experienced many benefits. I can now walk up and down the steps at work with no difficulty. I can walk a distance without being winded. I can wear styles of clothes I have avoided for years. I can bend and tie my shoes without huffing. I can sit on the floor and get back up without help. I can exercise for 2 hours and enjoy it. There are so many things I can do that I was unable to do just 9 months ago. If I hadn’t been open to the changes required to be successful with gastric bypass surgery I wouldn’t have experienced all the benefits I have gained from the surgery and my hard work.
I have changed my lifestyle. I eat better and healthier. I am back to seeking the Lord as the focal point in my life. I have made new friends through church. I am more content because of all of this.
Sometimes the scariest part of change is the differences it may bring. You can’t expect to change something over night or everything at one time. It is all part of a step process. I have talked about the steps to a goal many times. I have an ultimate goal within my weight loss. In order to get to that ultimate goal I have to take steps to get there. It started with having the surgery. After the surgery it was centered on being able to walk for a distance and exercise. I didn’t just stand up and walk a mile. I had to walk a few feet, a long length, a full block, a complete section, an entire mile, etc. Before I had surgery I was able to “make it through” a walking workout tape that was a mile. This week I did the 2 mile tape with ease. I think I am ready to try the 3 mile tape. Oh, it feels wonderful!! When I started at the YMCA exercising it was a struggle to make it 3-5 minutes on some of the machines. Now I easily do 20-30 minutes. It took great effort to withstand 15 minutes of strength training. Now I exercise for 2 hours at a time. I have increased my weights. I water exercise twice as much as I did when I started. Did I do all this overnight or in a week or a month? Nope! I did it a little at a time and slowly advanced and increased and challenged myself to change. I had to change my thinking, my will power and my resolve. But the key is, I had to change; a little at a time.
We have been changing since conception. God has been working in us since we were created. Some changes we are well aware of and others are so subtle and minute that we don’t even realize it has happened. When you began to crawl and then walk and run, you didn’t consciously think “I need to do this”. It just happened because of your natural determination. Other things like hair style, activities, goals, etc. you had to consciously think about and plan. Both types are changes and both affect the full realm of life. You have to take the risk and reap the benefits. You have to weigh the outcome. Sometimes those benefits are not perceived as positive, but they still give you a useful experience.
Through change you can go far in life. No one knows your limitations until you show them. Bank on the benefits. Possess the positive and reap the rewards of a better life through hard work, goal oriented actions and challenging changes.
It was through this process and my positive perception that I have reached my 1st big little step towards my “ultimate” goal. In the next couple of weeks I will be arranging my reward. I will make my appointment for my “day at the spa”. I have reached my goal of getting below 200 pounds and I will relax and enjoy a short vacation. I will be off work for 10 days, take a trip to Oklahoma City, spend time getting a massage, facial, pedicure and manicure and complete a couple of relaxing projects. At one time in my life I never dreamed I would see myself less than 200 pounds. It took time, effort, work, determination, resolve, planned goals, acceptance of small failures, acceptance of great successes and openness to change.
YOU choose what attitude you have. I challenge you today to look differently at what you are able to do...not what you cannot do! Embrace change as a positive thing. List the pros and cons. Make the decision to change for the better. I’m certainly glad I did. I plan to keep changing as my life progresses.
"When you're up to your rear end in alligators,
it's hard to remember your purpose is draining the swamp."
~George Napper~
A new job A smaller budget A different routine A new lifestyle
Change!
How do you accept change? If you are like the average human being, not well. You fight it tooth and nail. You run from it as fast as you can. You procrastinate. You stand steadfast in your resolve to never change. But, change can be a good thing. You just have to see past the comfort of your perception. Am I saying change is in the perception? As a matter of fact…yes. How you perceive your current situation and how you perceive the possible change will determine your actions and acceptance.
For most of 13 years I have worked a certain shift at work. I have worked evening hours (2:30pm-10:30pm). I changed to a variation of those hours (6:30pm-2:30am). Well after much thought I changed my hours again. In considering this change I had to take into account how it would affect my availability to exercise. At this point in my life that is 1st priority. I figured I could continue to exercise and change my hours and get everything done without being rushed (which keeps my stress level down). I decided it was time to challenge myself and do something out of my comfort zone. So I bid for the day power shift at work. What this means is I work 10:30am-6:30pm. I exercise from 7am-9am and am able to shower and get to work by 10:30am. Well, the first week of this change is completed. I love it! The day seems to go by so fast. I get off work at a good time and still have time to do things in the evening I need to get done. I go to bed at a decent time and get plenty of sleep and still get up early to go exercise. If I hadn’t been open to try this change I never would have known how it would be. I actually enjoy going to work again.
Now let’s look at another major change in my life. I bucked gastric bypass surgery for 2 years. I kept doing the same things and kept getting the same results. I continued to grow larger, unhappier and less satisfied with life. When I finally “gave in” and decided to have the surgery I was sure of what I was doing. I knew I needed to do it and had the resolve to try to be successful. That doesn’t mean the changes I would have to make didn’t leave me feeling somewhat scared, uncertain of my ability and mentally guarded about failure. The pros outweighed the cons and I was able to make an intelligent decision instead of an emotional one. I made that decision with certainty that it was the right decision.
Because of that resolve, determination and step of faith I have discovered and experienced many benefits. I can now walk up and down the steps at work with no difficulty. I can walk a distance without being winded. I can wear styles of clothes I have avoided for years. I can bend and tie my shoes without huffing. I can sit on the floor and get back up without help. I can exercise for 2 hours and enjoy it. There are so many things I can do that I was unable to do just 9 months ago. If I hadn’t been open to the changes required to be successful with gastric bypass surgery I wouldn’t have experienced all the benefits I have gained from the surgery and my hard work.
I have changed my lifestyle. I eat better and healthier. I am back to seeking the Lord as the focal point in my life. I have made new friends through church. I am more content because of all of this.
Sometimes the scariest part of change is the differences it may bring. You can’t expect to change something over night or everything at one time. It is all part of a step process. I have talked about the steps to a goal many times. I have an ultimate goal within my weight loss. In order to get to that ultimate goal I have to take steps to get there. It started with having the surgery. After the surgery it was centered on being able to walk for a distance and exercise. I didn’t just stand up and walk a mile. I had to walk a few feet, a long length, a full block, a complete section, an entire mile, etc. Before I had surgery I was able to “make it through” a walking workout tape that was a mile. This week I did the 2 mile tape with ease. I think I am ready to try the 3 mile tape. Oh, it feels wonderful!! When I started at the YMCA exercising it was a struggle to make it 3-5 minutes on some of the machines. Now I easily do 20-30 minutes. It took great effort to withstand 15 minutes of strength training. Now I exercise for 2 hours at a time. I have increased my weights. I water exercise twice as much as I did when I started. Did I do all this overnight or in a week or a month? Nope! I did it a little at a time and slowly advanced and increased and challenged myself to change. I had to change my thinking, my will power and my resolve. But the key is, I had to change; a little at a time.
We have been changing since conception. God has been working in us since we were created. Some changes we are well aware of and others are so subtle and minute that we don’t even realize it has happened. When you began to crawl and then walk and run, you didn’t consciously think “I need to do this”. It just happened because of your natural determination. Other things like hair style, activities, goals, etc. you had to consciously think about and plan. Both types are changes and both affect the full realm of life. You have to take the risk and reap the benefits. You have to weigh the outcome. Sometimes those benefits are not perceived as positive, but they still give you a useful experience.
Through change you can go far in life. No one knows your limitations until you show them. Bank on the benefits. Possess the positive and reap the rewards of a better life through hard work, goal oriented actions and challenging changes.
It was through this process and my positive perception that I have reached my 1st big little step towards my “ultimate” goal. In the next couple of weeks I will be arranging my reward. I will make my appointment for my “day at the spa”. I have reached my goal of getting below 200 pounds and I will relax and enjoy a short vacation. I will be off work for 10 days, take a trip to Oklahoma City, spend time getting a massage, facial, pedicure and manicure and complete a couple of relaxing projects. At one time in my life I never dreamed I would see myself less than 200 pounds. It took time, effort, work, determination, resolve, planned goals, acceptance of small failures, acceptance of great successes and openness to change.
YOU choose what attitude you have. I challenge you today to look differently at what you are able to do...not what you cannot do! Embrace change as a positive thing. List the pros and cons. Make the decision to change for the better. I’m certainly glad I did. I plan to keep changing as my life progresses.
"When you're up to your rear end in alligators,
it's hard to remember your purpose is draining the swamp."
~George Napper~
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Spoons to Bulldozers
Spoons to Bulldozers 4/5/09
Does it feel like this process is taking a long time? It may feel like you are a prisoner digging an underground tunnel with a spoon. It sounds like it takes too long. A successful plan requires a blueprint, tenacity, checking and rechecking every detail, thinking and praying and digging every day. It sounds so tough and hopeless, but on the day you hit your goal and see the sun at the end of the tunnel and you are free you will forget the daily grind and grueling pain you felt using that spoon to move that dirt. The key to enduring this process is to set the short term goals. You have to plan to dig so far each day (exercise so long each day, eat healthy each day, etc.) If one day you aren't up to the full length of the plan, relax a little that day, but get back on your hands and knees and tunnel through the next day. Each inch (step towards the goal) brings you closer to the light (goal).
The hopelessness will diminish as you get closer and closer to the end. When your goal is within your vision you become hopeful and invigorated. As you reach that goal you must then set another goal. Once you are out of the tunnel and in the light and free, you must find a new goal to work towards to stay on top. You have broken out of the prison and now you must live a productive life. In terms of our surgery, we must maintain.
Your 1st goal may not be your ultimate goal. Just to bring this in focus I will use myself as an example. It's much easier that way, but you can tweak my example to fit you personal situation. My ultimate goal is to lose a total of 152 pounds. If I were to make that my only goal I would get very discouraged. So I have set several smaller goals. Several of them I have already attained and that has boosted my reserve to continue the hard work to dig towards the end of that tunnel. I am struggling with a "big" smaller scale goal that I just can't seem to reach on the time frame I planned. I wanted to be below 200 pounds before April, but I haven't made it yet. I have had a couple of weeks of set backs. This week I am teetering on the edge. I know I will hit it; I just have to be patient, have tenacity and drive to keep tunneling. I have to recheck my plan and figure out what I am doing that is holding me on the edge. That doesn't mean I give up my steps to get to the smaller goal in order to get to the ultimate goal. My hopefulness is still very strong. I get that strength from my many supports. From the many encouragements and compliments from my supporters. I keep patting myself on the back. I keep rechecking my progress, reevaluating my plan, making sure I am on track. Sometimes the tunnel veers off at an unexpected angle and I have to dig back to the original plan or I have to adjust my plan to work with the circumstances at hand, but I continue to dig and make progress.
Spoons seem like such a small tool in your toolbox, but remember the tool you have is a smaller stomach. As you progress in your healthy lifestyle, you may feel like your toolbox presents a shovel (confidence, drive, hopefulness). Then as you become stronger in your will power and your tenacity and your desires and your goal seeking, your tool may become a bulldozer. You barrel through more exercises; more intense exercise and you feel better which in turn gives you more confidence. Do you see where this is going? Soon you will be at your ultimate goal, maintaining your healthy lifestyle and doing things you haven't been able to do in years. You will have the health you always desired and the contentment and drive to continue upward. It may take 5 years, 10 years and a lifetime to live the life you deserve, but remember, it all started with a spoon!
This scenario can work for any goal you may have in your life. A new career, a new relationship, maybe even a new dream. Just keep planning and digging and the progress will bring forth a blessing!
This concept and thought process was put in motion by a reading from "Financial Peace Revisited" by Dave Ramsey
Friendship is like peeing your pants.
Everyone can see it,
But only YOU can feel the true warmth.
Does it feel like this process is taking a long time? It may feel like you are a prisoner digging an underground tunnel with a spoon. It sounds like it takes too long. A successful plan requires a blueprint, tenacity, checking and rechecking every detail, thinking and praying and digging every day. It sounds so tough and hopeless, but on the day you hit your goal and see the sun at the end of the tunnel and you are free you will forget the daily grind and grueling pain you felt using that spoon to move that dirt. The key to enduring this process is to set the short term goals. You have to plan to dig so far each day (exercise so long each day, eat healthy each day, etc.) If one day you aren't up to the full length of the plan, relax a little that day, but get back on your hands and knees and tunnel through the next day. Each inch (step towards the goal) brings you closer to the light (goal).
The hopelessness will diminish as you get closer and closer to the end. When your goal is within your vision you become hopeful and invigorated. As you reach that goal you must then set another goal. Once you are out of the tunnel and in the light and free, you must find a new goal to work towards to stay on top. You have broken out of the prison and now you must live a productive life. In terms of our surgery, we must maintain.
Your 1st goal may not be your ultimate goal. Just to bring this in focus I will use myself as an example. It's much easier that way, but you can tweak my example to fit you personal situation. My ultimate goal is to lose a total of 152 pounds. If I were to make that my only goal I would get very discouraged. So I have set several smaller goals. Several of them I have already attained and that has boosted my reserve to continue the hard work to dig towards the end of that tunnel. I am struggling with a "big" smaller scale goal that I just can't seem to reach on the time frame I planned. I wanted to be below 200 pounds before April, but I haven't made it yet. I have had a couple of weeks of set backs. This week I am teetering on the edge. I know I will hit it; I just have to be patient, have tenacity and drive to keep tunneling. I have to recheck my plan and figure out what I am doing that is holding me on the edge. That doesn't mean I give up my steps to get to the smaller goal in order to get to the ultimate goal. My hopefulness is still very strong. I get that strength from my many supports. From the many encouragements and compliments from my supporters. I keep patting myself on the back. I keep rechecking my progress, reevaluating my plan, making sure I am on track. Sometimes the tunnel veers off at an unexpected angle and I have to dig back to the original plan or I have to adjust my plan to work with the circumstances at hand, but I continue to dig and make progress.
Spoons seem like such a small tool in your toolbox, but remember the tool you have is a smaller stomach. As you progress in your healthy lifestyle, you may feel like your toolbox presents a shovel (confidence, drive, hopefulness). Then as you become stronger in your will power and your tenacity and your desires and your goal seeking, your tool may become a bulldozer. You barrel through more exercises; more intense exercise and you feel better which in turn gives you more confidence. Do you see where this is going? Soon you will be at your ultimate goal, maintaining your healthy lifestyle and doing things you haven't been able to do in years. You will have the health you always desired and the contentment and drive to continue upward. It may take 5 years, 10 years and a lifetime to live the life you deserve, but remember, it all started with a spoon!
This scenario can work for any goal you may have in your life. A new career, a new relationship, maybe even a new dream. Just keep planning and digging and the progress will bring forth a blessing!
This concept and thought process was put in motion by a reading from "Financial Peace Revisited" by Dave Ramsey
Friendship is like peeing your pants.
Everyone can see it,
But only YOU can feel the true warmth.
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Seuss-ism for Success
This post is an added one for the week. Some times you just get inspired.
This week I thought about Dr. Suess. Why? I really don't know. Some of my best thinking takes place in the bathroom, either in the shower or on the toilet. Occassionally while I am brushing my teeth, but usually in the shower. Maybe it is the hot water rolling over my head and down my body that gets the creative juices flowing. I began to think of some of the titles of Dr. Suess' books. When I was a kid I can remember a couple of popular books; "The Cat In The Hat" and "Green Eggs and Ham". They were silly books, but staples of growing up. They still are. In public libraries they are probably one of the most popular series among the juvenile sect.
So in thinking about Dr. Suess and his educational repretoire, I come up with some other titles that may be less known to the juvenile sect. The first reminds me of my neurologist’s insistence of gastric bypass surgery being the only option for me. The title: "What Was I scared Of?" That is the million dollar question. I have thought about it a lot since surgery. The thoughts I have come up with are stigma, fear, stubborness, and ego. The stigma I put on the surgery and how others would view me kept me in denial of the need to have the surgery. The sad part is most people didn't view the surgery the same way I did. The stigma I put on it was only in my mind. Fear of failure was very real. I had tried so many other "diets", "plans", "procedures", "pills", "potions", "herbs" and "quick fixes" that I knew failure was in my path more than success ever had been. Therefore fear of failure in the eyes of others and the eyes of myself. Not even to mention the frustration of that failure time and time again. Next is stubborness. I know this will be a shock to many of you (not!), but I can be stubborn; especially with myself. I blame this on the perfectionist nature I tote around daily. If it can't be perfect then play it safe. Well, safe in this matter was only making me fatter and unhealthier. If I can't be guaranteed to lose then I will not try. Although I did try over and over and over. So my stubborness was active on both fronts. I kept trying, but "knowing" I wasn't going to make it long term. Then there was ego. I was scared if I didn't succeed 100% then that meant I was a failure which has never done anything for anyone's ego. I had to get past these fears and face the truths. The main truth is I am obese and I am killing myself daily by being obese. Many health related issues, ego related issues and emotional issues are wrapped up in my obesity. Now that is the truth I had to face.
We all face the same truths within our own lives. It may not be diet or obesity. It may be if it is time to make some other type of change. So ask yourself: "what am I scared of?" Then weigh your options and face it. Decide with facts not fears. That's what I had to do and I had gastric bypass surgery because of those facts. I had to face the fears and doubts of success. Now I ask myself "What Was I Scared Of?" Maybe it was failure. Maybe it was success itself. Regardless, I'm glad I faced that fear and I am healthier for it.
The second title is "The Shape of Me and Other Stuff". You know I realized something several years ago. Round is a shape! The problem with this thought is it also gave me an excuse to stay round. Other terms I think of I have used in the past are "fluffy", "fat and happy" (was I really? I doubt it.) and several other denial quotes. It was always worth a chuckle, but it didn't lead to a very healthy life. Thank God I decided to change my shape. I knew it would be a tough go. Many people think it is the easy way out having gastric bypass surgery. I challenge them to watch a few surgeries, read the facts, talk to those of us that have had the procedure and then make a decision of how easy it is. It isn’t a cure-all. Yes it looks like we move so fast in our weight loss, but only if we are dedicated to this new lifestyle the operation offers us. Yes, you can return to your original weight if you decide to return to your original lifestyle. In regards to the “Other Stuff” I am just thankful for the will power, determination, optimism and positive attitude God has given me to continue to work this lifestyle change. We each lead our lives in different manners and we each are a different shape. It is our decisions and actions that form the lifestyle and shapes. To take a phrase from Dr. Seuss, “Hurrah for the shapes we are in.”
This leads me to the 3rd book titled: “Oh, The Places You’ll Go”. There used to be a lot of things I couldn’t do and places I wouldn’t go because of my size. Now I can get down on the floor with out fear of not getting back up without a crane and someone to operate it. I can fit through a turnstile at a concert, vendor event, etc. I am comfortable in the movie theatre seat. I can sit on a chair with both cheeks on the seat. I can cross my legs and sit with my legs together instead of spread from here to yonder. Some of you may have never had these problems, but what are some of the other challenges you have because of something you need to change in your life? Are you “stuck” in a dead end career, frustrated in a relationship, stuck in a debt spiral or any number of other situations? Is it time to take that step of faith and “go for it”? Maybe you have worked at your situation, but have become weary from the effort and little positive forward movement. Don’t give up! We each are made up of 4 parts. They are independent parts and they are also interdependent.
4 parts of people:
1. Physical-we only have 1 body – take care of it
2. Intellectual-read, learn and grow daily
3. Emotional-deal with it and move on
4. Spiritual-get a personal relationship with Jesus and watch all areas grow and strengthen
According to “Oh The Places You’ll Go” “Life is a great balancing act”; “Just never forget to be dexterous and deft” and “Today is your day. Your mountain is waiting so. . . get on your way”.
Yes, Dr Seuss was a silly little dude, but a smart cookie. Look at yourself, evaluate your situations, set the goals, take the steps to attain those goals one step at a time, rely on your support systems and revel in your success!
My Seuss Principle:
Set your goals
Evaluate you motives and dedication
Use a step process to get to the goals
Support systems are a must (God, friends, family, co-workers, activity groups, etc.)
Savor your success
You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.
~David Viscott~
This week I thought about Dr. Suess. Why? I really don't know. Some of my best thinking takes place in the bathroom, either in the shower or on the toilet. Occassionally while I am brushing my teeth, but usually in the shower. Maybe it is the hot water rolling over my head and down my body that gets the creative juices flowing. I began to think of some of the titles of Dr. Suess' books. When I was a kid I can remember a couple of popular books; "The Cat In The Hat" and "Green Eggs and Ham". They were silly books, but staples of growing up. They still are. In public libraries they are probably one of the most popular series among the juvenile sect.
So in thinking about Dr. Suess and his educational repretoire, I come up with some other titles that may be less known to the juvenile sect. The first reminds me of my neurologist’s insistence of gastric bypass surgery being the only option for me. The title: "What Was I scared Of?" That is the million dollar question. I have thought about it a lot since surgery. The thoughts I have come up with are stigma, fear, stubborness, and ego. The stigma I put on the surgery and how others would view me kept me in denial of the need to have the surgery. The sad part is most people didn't view the surgery the same way I did. The stigma I put on it was only in my mind. Fear of failure was very real. I had tried so many other "diets", "plans", "procedures", "pills", "potions", "herbs" and "quick fixes" that I knew failure was in my path more than success ever had been. Therefore fear of failure in the eyes of others and the eyes of myself. Not even to mention the frustration of that failure time and time again. Next is stubborness. I know this will be a shock to many of you (not!), but I can be stubborn; especially with myself. I blame this on the perfectionist nature I tote around daily. If it can't be perfect then play it safe. Well, safe in this matter was only making me fatter and unhealthier. If I can't be guaranteed to lose then I will not try. Although I did try over and over and over. So my stubborness was active on both fronts. I kept trying, but "knowing" I wasn't going to make it long term. Then there was ego. I was scared if I didn't succeed 100% then that meant I was a failure which has never done anything for anyone's ego. I had to get past these fears and face the truths. The main truth is I am obese and I am killing myself daily by being obese. Many health related issues, ego related issues and emotional issues are wrapped up in my obesity. Now that is the truth I had to face.
We all face the same truths within our own lives. It may not be diet or obesity. It may be if it is time to make some other type of change. So ask yourself: "what am I scared of?" Then weigh your options and face it. Decide with facts not fears. That's what I had to do and I had gastric bypass surgery because of those facts. I had to face the fears and doubts of success. Now I ask myself "What Was I Scared Of?" Maybe it was failure. Maybe it was success itself. Regardless, I'm glad I faced that fear and I am healthier for it.
The second title is "The Shape of Me and Other Stuff". You know I realized something several years ago. Round is a shape! The problem with this thought is it also gave me an excuse to stay round. Other terms I think of I have used in the past are "fluffy", "fat and happy" (was I really? I doubt it.) and several other denial quotes. It was always worth a chuckle, but it didn't lead to a very healthy life. Thank God I decided to change my shape. I knew it would be a tough go. Many people think it is the easy way out having gastric bypass surgery. I challenge them to watch a few surgeries, read the facts, talk to those of us that have had the procedure and then make a decision of how easy it is. It isn’t a cure-all. Yes it looks like we move so fast in our weight loss, but only if we are dedicated to this new lifestyle the operation offers us. Yes, you can return to your original weight if you decide to return to your original lifestyle. In regards to the “Other Stuff” I am just thankful for the will power, determination, optimism and positive attitude God has given me to continue to work this lifestyle change. We each lead our lives in different manners and we each are a different shape. It is our decisions and actions that form the lifestyle and shapes. To take a phrase from Dr. Seuss, “Hurrah for the shapes we are in.”
This leads me to the 3rd book titled: “Oh, The Places You’ll Go”. There used to be a lot of things I couldn’t do and places I wouldn’t go because of my size. Now I can get down on the floor with out fear of not getting back up without a crane and someone to operate it. I can fit through a turnstile at a concert, vendor event, etc. I am comfortable in the movie theatre seat. I can sit on a chair with both cheeks on the seat. I can cross my legs and sit with my legs together instead of spread from here to yonder. Some of you may have never had these problems, but what are some of the other challenges you have because of something you need to change in your life? Are you “stuck” in a dead end career, frustrated in a relationship, stuck in a debt spiral or any number of other situations? Is it time to take that step of faith and “go for it”? Maybe you have worked at your situation, but have become weary from the effort and little positive forward movement. Don’t give up! We each are made up of 4 parts. They are independent parts and they are also interdependent.
4 parts of people:
1. Physical-we only have 1 body – take care of it
2. Intellectual-read, learn and grow daily
3. Emotional-deal with it and move on
4. Spiritual-get a personal relationship with Jesus and watch all areas grow and strengthen
According to “Oh The Places You’ll Go” “Life is a great balancing act”; “Just never forget to be dexterous and deft” and “Today is your day. Your mountain is waiting so. . . get on your way”.
Yes, Dr Seuss was a silly little dude, but a smart cookie. Look at yourself, evaluate your situations, set the goals, take the steps to attain those goals one step at a time, rely on your support systems and revel in your success!
My Seuss Principle:
Set your goals
Evaluate you motives and dedication
Use a step process to get to the goals
Support systems are a must (God, friends, family, co-workers, activity groups, etc.)
Savor your success
You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.
~David Viscott~
Sunday, March 29, 2009
The Twist of the Lens
This week one of the ladies from my aqua-cising class had a brunch in my honor. They were celebrating me reaching my 1st big goal I set since surgery. Although I haven’t really made it yet, they figured it was close enough. I talked about giving myself a “day at the spa” when I reached less than 200 pounds. Well, one of the ladies decided the class should celebrate. They all have been very supportive of me since I told them I was having the surgery. They have asked a million questions. They have taken some of my tips and knowledge and used it in their own diets. They sent me cards and called me when I was just home from the hospital and until I made it back to class. They ask every Monday what I did for my weigh in. I weigh every Saturday morning and they know it. It is always the 1st question they ask when class begins on Monday at 8am. So this one lady decided she was going to host a brunch in my honor. She invited everyone from the class. There are 12-14 of us regulars. 10 of us showed up for the brunch. There were 11 of us in class that morning. One who did make it to class but couldn’t make it to the brunch left a card for me at this lady’s house and another that was sick called her and asked that she give me her congratulations. She made a very nice spread! She had a fruit tray with kiwi, strawberries, apples and grapes. She had carrots and celery. She made a breakfast dish that was whole wheat bread with Velveeta cheese and sliced cherry tomatoes on it and she placed it under the broiler to heat/crisp. It was very good. She made a diabetic bar that had no sugar in it. It was DELICIOUS! I got the recipe and plan to make it. She had 2 other desserts that I did not try because they were made with sugar. It was an enjoyable hour and half we spent eating and talking. All these women are old enough to be my mother, but they are so sweet and so involved in my support system. I appreciated each one of them. They make this journey fun because they spur me on and keep me honest and on track.
This week I was driving down the road running errands. I hadn’t eaten and was feeling a little hunger edging on. Before surgery (BS) I would have pulled into McDonald’s and ordered me a cheeseburger and fries. I thought about it and thought, “DeAnn, is it something you really want?” I thought, no, it really isn’t. “Well, is there something you would rather have like Quiznos, Taco Bell, Wendy’s, Spangles or Sonic?” I thought, no, not really. So I went on about my errands and waited until I got home and fixed me something healthy (protein and vegetables). When I finally stopped and thought about what I had done I had to smile. The lifestyle changes have seeped over into my thought process too! This week mom said she was making a baked potato for her and dad to go along with the meat for lunch. She asked if I wanted one also. I said, “No, I think I will just have 2 cups of salad instead.” Wow! It sure feels good to be on track and not feel deprived. You have to understand, BS, I would have jumped on the baked potato with butter and sour cream. Yes, I still have that, but not often. Healthy choices!
It has been 8 months since surgery. It doesn’t seem possible. I have been losing weight for 9 months (semi-liquid started June 21st). I had lost 11 pounds before surgery ever took place. I have lost 92 pound in the last 9 months. I decided to go through my closet and pull clothes. I wore a pair of pants Friday night that were W-A-Y too big, so I decided it was the last time for them. I realized there were about 3 pair of pants I wore to work this week that were very big on me too. So I went through everything in the closet. The way too big pants I wore were 26W (which was smaller than I wore BS). I put on a pair of pants that were 24W and they were still too big for me. So I am unsure what I actually wear that actually fit. I have given up some 3X pants and am down to 1X in some pants and 2X in others. Since the time of surgery I have reduced my pant waist size by 6”. My shirts were 4X-5X depending on the style. I am now wearing 1X-2X. Earlier in the week I wore a shirt that was button up the front. One of my co-workers asked the next day if I had worn a button up shirt. I said I did. She said she had never seen me in a button up shirt. I said, “Yea, it’s been at least 20 years since I was able to wear one and look good in it.” Some progress is being noted. I cleaned out 4 boxes of clothes that no longer fit. I have the next size down and I hope it will last me until July. I tend to wear them beyond the “fit” stage. I have to feel frustrated with them to go to the next size down.
My new goal once I make the199 pound goal is to lose 60 more pounds. I know it will be a real challenge. The weight loss has slowed down and I have actually gained 4 times since surgery. So I will need to really watch myself, my food, my exercise, etc. The first time I gained we figured it was water gain. The other 3 I am sure is because of my food choices. As I get more comfortable with myself, my eating, etc. I find I am becoming a little more lax. That is something I will need to stay on top of. I also have been eating a lot more fruit, which is good for me, but it also has a lot of sugar to it. I need to find some high protein/low calorie foods to substitute for the fruit. I have to admit the kiwi, oranges, cantaloupe, apples, bananas and strawberries have been fantastic! I have found I really love frozen grapes, pineapple and peaches. All of them I have been eating in alignment with the Walk Kansas challenge I am doing. They want me to eat 5 fruits and vegetables a day. I have been eating at least 7-8 a day; probably more snacks than I need. Therefore I must get back on top and watch myself.
Next week I start a new schedule at work and I will have to revamp my eating style and times. I want to get started on the right foot and not get into some bad habits. So this week I will be taking some time to plan my meals for next week. I know this means taking a conscious note of what I am eating, how often I am eating and why I am eating. I hope my dietician through Innovative Weight Loss Solutions will be able to help me come up with some good menus. Just some good food combination suggestions and I can tweak them for myself. I am open to trying new things. Actually this week I made black eyed peas for dad and me. I have never had them. It was actually good. I put a little too much spice in it for me, but that can be adjusted.
Mac Anderson said, Life “is like looking through the lens of a camera. At first it seems a little "fuzzy" but one small twist of the lens can make it crystal clear.” I want to get my goals back in focus and lose this weight and feel healthier. I hope your camera lens is focused on what is most important to you.
Thought: Captain Kirk, Star Ship Enterprise introduced the human race to cell phones.
AKA Star Trek Communicator Device
This week I was driving down the road running errands. I hadn’t eaten and was feeling a little hunger edging on. Before surgery (BS) I would have pulled into McDonald’s and ordered me a cheeseburger and fries. I thought about it and thought, “DeAnn, is it something you really want?” I thought, no, it really isn’t. “Well, is there something you would rather have like Quiznos, Taco Bell, Wendy’s, Spangles or Sonic?” I thought, no, not really. So I went on about my errands and waited until I got home and fixed me something healthy (protein and vegetables). When I finally stopped and thought about what I had done I had to smile. The lifestyle changes have seeped over into my thought process too! This week mom said she was making a baked potato for her and dad to go along with the meat for lunch. She asked if I wanted one also. I said, “No, I think I will just have 2 cups of salad instead.” Wow! It sure feels good to be on track and not feel deprived. You have to understand, BS, I would have jumped on the baked potato with butter and sour cream. Yes, I still have that, but not often. Healthy choices!
It has been 8 months since surgery. It doesn’t seem possible. I have been losing weight for 9 months (semi-liquid started June 21st). I had lost 11 pounds before surgery ever took place. I have lost 92 pound in the last 9 months. I decided to go through my closet and pull clothes. I wore a pair of pants Friday night that were W-A-Y too big, so I decided it was the last time for them. I realized there were about 3 pair of pants I wore to work this week that were very big on me too. So I went through everything in the closet. The way too big pants I wore were 26W (which was smaller than I wore BS). I put on a pair of pants that were 24W and they were still too big for me. So I am unsure what I actually wear that actually fit. I have given up some 3X pants and am down to 1X in some pants and 2X in others. Since the time of surgery I have reduced my pant waist size by 6”. My shirts were 4X-5X depending on the style. I am now wearing 1X-2X. Earlier in the week I wore a shirt that was button up the front. One of my co-workers asked the next day if I had worn a button up shirt. I said I did. She said she had never seen me in a button up shirt. I said, “Yea, it’s been at least 20 years since I was able to wear one and look good in it.” Some progress is being noted. I cleaned out 4 boxes of clothes that no longer fit. I have the next size down and I hope it will last me until July. I tend to wear them beyond the “fit” stage. I have to feel frustrated with them to go to the next size down.
My new goal once I make the199 pound goal is to lose 60 more pounds. I know it will be a real challenge. The weight loss has slowed down and I have actually gained 4 times since surgery. So I will need to really watch myself, my food, my exercise, etc. The first time I gained we figured it was water gain. The other 3 I am sure is because of my food choices. As I get more comfortable with myself, my eating, etc. I find I am becoming a little more lax. That is something I will need to stay on top of. I also have been eating a lot more fruit, which is good for me, but it also has a lot of sugar to it. I need to find some high protein/low calorie foods to substitute for the fruit. I have to admit the kiwi, oranges, cantaloupe, apples, bananas and strawberries have been fantastic! I have found I really love frozen grapes, pineapple and peaches. All of them I have been eating in alignment with the Walk Kansas challenge I am doing. They want me to eat 5 fruits and vegetables a day. I have been eating at least 7-8 a day; probably more snacks than I need. Therefore I must get back on top and watch myself.
Next week I start a new schedule at work and I will have to revamp my eating style and times. I want to get started on the right foot and not get into some bad habits. So this week I will be taking some time to plan my meals for next week. I know this means taking a conscious note of what I am eating, how often I am eating and why I am eating. I hope my dietician through Innovative Weight Loss Solutions will be able to help me come up with some good menus. Just some good food combination suggestions and I can tweak them for myself. I am open to trying new things. Actually this week I made black eyed peas for dad and me. I have never had them. It was actually good. I put a little too much spice in it for me, but that can be adjusted.
Mac Anderson said, Life “is like looking through the lens of a camera. At first it seems a little "fuzzy" but one small twist of the lens can make it crystal clear.” I want to get my goals back in focus and lose this weight and feel healthier. I hope your camera lens is focused on what is most important to you.
Thought: Captain Kirk, Star Ship Enterprise introduced the human race to cell phones.
AKA Star Trek Communicator Device
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Borrowed words of wisdom
This week I am going to borrow an article from a weekly email I get from an excellent life coach. She wasn’t specifically talking about weight loss but I feel the concepts in this article are very pertinent to weight loss as well as living a goal focused life and a new lifestyle.
This week has been a week of challenge for me. I have had to step back and refocus often this week. I have had to re-assess my dreams, desires and wishes in regards to weight loss, time tables, eating habits, ultimate weight goals and beyond reaching them. This doesn’t just encompass my food intake, exercise routines or weight itself. This encompasses every avenue of my life. This touches how I treat others, how I relate to my friends and family and how I accept myself and my downfalls and successes. That is why I think this article is so good for me and hopefully you will be able to pull something out of it too.
You will look for the title below: This Week's Topic: There is a way! 5 steps to work around an obstacle. It is about middle of the page. The author of this article allows it to be used as long as you forward the entire email. I found encouragement from this article. It reinforced the need to look deep inside; it wouldn’t be easy or quick. It is a matter of finding the way when there seems to be no way. Weight loss surgery was exactly that for me. It was the way, but I had to accept what it entailed. It is a life long journey not a quick fix. It is hard work, not the “easy way out”. It is mental, emotional and physical. Just like many things in life that are worth the price.
I also found some encouragement this week from others. I saw a gal in a store who hadn’t seen me since before surgery. She said, “WOW! You have a glow I haven’t seen in years.” She had heard I had a procedure and was doing well. I told her I haven’t had this glow for at least 20 years. I have been in pain at least that long and for the first time I have virtually no pain and I have so much energy and it feels good.
I hope this article will encourage you this week. Until next week, I wish you the best in your forward motion in life.
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This Week's Topic: There is a way! 5 steps to work around an obstacle
Dear Friend,
In what area of your life do you feel like you've hit a road block and it is discouraging you? Perhaps it is in your work or finances, in a relationship or responsibility, your health or a weight loss challenge. Whether personally or professionally, we all face points on our path where the answers don't come soon enough. It is during these times when you must tap into a spirit of determination. If you don't, you may see your dreams wash away.
This type of determination is epitomized by a group of friends trying to help their paralyzed friend in the New Testament:
"Some men came carrying a paralytic on a mat and tried to take him into the house to lay him before Jesus. When they could not find a way to do this because of the crowd, they went up on the roof and lowered him on his mat through the tiles into the middle of the crowd, right in front of Jesus. When Jesus saw their faith, he said, "Friend, your sins are forgiven." - Luke 5:17 - 19
"...He [Jesus]" said to the paralyzed man, "I tell you, get up, take your mat and go home." Immediately he stood up in front of them, took what he had been lying on and went home praising God." - Luke 5:24-25
These men didn't see the crowds surrounding the house as a road block. They knew their answer was inside, but they also knew they would not be able to access their answer the quick and easy way. It looked like there was no way in, but they determined to find a way!
This week, I challenge you to get determined. In our fast-paced culture, could it be that we have become so used to getting what we want quickly and easily that the virtues of determination, patience and perseverance have suffered? Authentic confidence says, "I may not know how to get it right now, but there is a way, and I am determined to find it." You may have to work harder than you thought. You may have to be creative. You may have to step outside of your comfort zone and do it differently than everyone around you. But when it comes to your destiny, there is always a way to work around the obstacles. In fact, the obstacles are often there so that you can develop the character traits you need to succeed in the next phase of your life.
Consider this five-step process to working around the perceived obstacles in your life:
1. Make a decision to find a way.
Determination begins with a decision to succeed, whatever it takes. Set your intention to succeed. Commit to it fully. Be confident. Get clear about what it is that you want or need, and focus keenly on it. The people in the scripture above wanted healing for their friend - and they made a decision to do whatever it took to get it. Get clear about what you are aiming for, then refuse to allow distractions to steal your focus. What is the real goal you need to be focused on?
2. Manage your expectations.
Don't expect success to come "fast and easy." It is possible that your answer may come quickly and easily, but don't count on it. More often than not, success comes when you persevere, persist and work at it over time. Be prepared for the long haul.
3. Stop focusing on the obstacle and start looking for an opportunity.
The men with the paralyzed friend weren't focused on the crowds swarmed around the house. They didn't try to push their way through. They realized that their real problem was not the crowd. The real problem was that their friend needed to be healed and a miracle healer was inside, if they could just get to Him. Seeing that the traditional way of getting into the house would not work, they focused on finding another way. When it comes to overcoming the obstacle to achieve your goal, what options haven't you considered? Write them all down. If you have trouble identifying options, brainstorm with a wise and trusted friend, pray and listen for options that are different from what you've previously considered.
4. Be creative.
When it looks like there is no opportunity, create one. Research your options. Be willing to fail. Blaze a trail if necessary. There is a way!
5. Do what you have to do.
Be willing to do the thing that's hard. Anything truly worth having is worth working for. Being determined means doing what you have to do. Complaining won't change things. Feeling sorry for yourself won't either. Dig your heels in and be determined! On the other side of your obstacle, your prize awaits you.
My challenge to you this week:
Make a decision to find a way! Then take each of these five steps towards your goal.
Journaling assignment:
What is your true goal? What is your biggest obstacle to achieving your true goal? At the core of the matter, why is this keeping you from your goal? What alternatives would get you to your goal? If you can't think of any, who could help you brainstorm?
Lastly, by working around this obstacle, what character trait do you think God is trying to help you develop?Until next time ...Warm wishes,
P.S. Encourage your friends and family by sharing this newsletter and invite others to subscribe!
Just send them to www.valorieburton.com, where they can enter their email address on the home page.
Valorie Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life, Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, What's Really Holding You Back?, Why Not You? and her latest, How Did I Get So Busy? The 28-Day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule and Reconnect with What Matters Most. Subscribe to her FREE, inspirational e-newsletter at www.valorieburton.com.
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The Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter is written and distributed by Inspire, Inc. Copyright (c) 2008 Valorie Burton. All rights reserved. www.valorieburton.com.
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“Every Life Full of Giggles Makes the Age Lines Fall Off"
~Marilyn Meberg~
This week has been a week of challenge for me. I have had to step back and refocus often this week. I have had to re-assess my dreams, desires and wishes in regards to weight loss, time tables, eating habits, ultimate weight goals and beyond reaching them. This doesn’t just encompass my food intake, exercise routines or weight itself. This encompasses every avenue of my life. This touches how I treat others, how I relate to my friends and family and how I accept myself and my downfalls and successes. That is why I think this article is so good for me and hopefully you will be able to pull something out of it too.
You will look for the title below: This Week's Topic: There is a way! 5 steps to work around an obstacle. It is about middle of the page. The author of this article allows it to be used as long as you forward the entire email. I found encouragement from this article. It reinforced the need to look deep inside; it wouldn’t be easy or quick. It is a matter of finding the way when there seems to be no way. Weight loss surgery was exactly that for me. It was the way, but I had to accept what it entailed. It is a life long journey not a quick fix. It is hard work, not the “easy way out”. It is mental, emotional and physical. Just like many things in life that are worth the price.
I also found some encouragement this week from others. I saw a gal in a store who hadn’t seen me since before surgery. She said, “WOW! You have a glow I haven’t seen in years.” She had heard I had a procedure and was doing well. I told her I haven’t had this glow for at least 20 years. I have been in pain at least that long and for the first time I have virtually no pain and I have so much energy and it feels good.
I hope this article will encourage you this week. Until next week, I wish you the best in your forward motion in life.
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This Week's Topic: There is a way! 5 steps to work around an obstacle
Dear Friend,
In what area of your life do you feel like you've hit a road block and it is discouraging you? Perhaps it is in your work or finances, in a relationship or responsibility, your health or a weight loss challenge. Whether personally or professionally, we all face points on our path where the answers don't come soon enough. It is during these times when you must tap into a spirit of determination. If you don't, you may see your dreams wash away.
This type of determination is epitomized by a group of friends trying to help their paralyzed friend in the New Testament:
"Some men came carrying a paralytic on a mat and tried to take him into the house to lay him before Jesus. When they could not find a way to do this because of the crowd, they went up on the roof and lowered him on his mat through the tiles into the middle of the crowd, right in front of Jesus. When Jesus saw their faith, he said, "Friend, your sins are forgiven." - Luke 5:17 - 19
"...He [Jesus]" said to the paralyzed man, "I tell you, get up, take your mat and go home." Immediately he stood up in front of them, took what he had been lying on and went home praising God." - Luke 5:24-25
These men didn't see the crowds surrounding the house as a road block. They knew their answer was inside, but they also knew they would not be able to access their answer the quick and easy way. It looked like there was no way in, but they determined to find a way!
This week, I challenge you to get determined. In our fast-paced culture, could it be that we have become so used to getting what we want quickly and easily that the virtues of determination, patience and perseverance have suffered? Authentic confidence says, "I may not know how to get it right now, but there is a way, and I am determined to find it." You may have to work harder than you thought. You may have to be creative. You may have to step outside of your comfort zone and do it differently than everyone around you. But when it comes to your destiny, there is always a way to work around the obstacles. In fact, the obstacles are often there so that you can develop the character traits you need to succeed in the next phase of your life.
Consider this five-step process to working around the perceived obstacles in your life:
1. Make a decision to find a way.
Determination begins with a decision to succeed, whatever it takes. Set your intention to succeed. Commit to it fully. Be confident. Get clear about what it is that you want or need, and focus keenly on it. The people in the scripture above wanted healing for their friend - and they made a decision to do whatever it took to get it. Get clear about what you are aiming for, then refuse to allow distractions to steal your focus. What is the real goal you need to be focused on?
2. Manage your expectations.
Don't expect success to come "fast and easy." It is possible that your answer may come quickly and easily, but don't count on it. More often than not, success comes when you persevere, persist and work at it over time. Be prepared for the long haul.
3. Stop focusing on the obstacle and start looking for an opportunity.
The men with the paralyzed friend weren't focused on the crowds swarmed around the house. They didn't try to push their way through. They realized that their real problem was not the crowd. The real problem was that their friend needed to be healed and a miracle healer was inside, if they could just get to Him. Seeing that the traditional way of getting into the house would not work, they focused on finding another way. When it comes to overcoming the obstacle to achieve your goal, what options haven't you considered? Write them all down. If you have trouble identifying options, brainstorm with a wise and trusted friend, pray and listen for options that are different from what you've previously considered.
4. Be creative.
When it looks like there is no opportunity, create one. Research your options. Be willing to fail. Blaze a trail if necessary. There is a way!
5. Do what you have to do.
Be willing to do the thing that's hard. Anything truly worth having is worth working for. Being determined means doing what you have to do. Complaining won't change things. Feeling sorry for yourself won't either. Dig your heels in and be determined! On the other side of your obstacle, your prize awaits you.
My challenge to you this week:
Make a decision to find a way! Then take each of these five steps towards your goal.
Journaling assignment:
What is your true goal? What is your biggest obstacle to achieving your true goal? At the core of the matter, why is this keeping you from your goal? What alternatives would get you to your goal? If you can't think of any, who could help you brainstorm?
Lastly, by working around this obstacle, what character trait do you think God is trying to help you develop?Until next time ...Warm wishes,
P.S. Encourage your friends and family by sharing this newsletter and invite others to subscribe!
Just send them to www.valorieburton.com, where they can enter their email address on the home page.
Valorie Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life, Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, What's Really Holding You Back?, Why Not You? and her latest, How Did I Get So Busy? The 28-Day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule and Reconnect with What Matters Most. Subscribe to her FREE, inspirational e-newsletter at www.valorieburton.com.
Please feel free to forward the Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter to friends and colleagues, but please forward in its entirety.
The Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter is written and distributed by Inspire, Inc. Copyright (c) 2008 Valorie Burton. All rights reserved. www.valorieburton.com.
Inspire, Inc. 1009 Bay Ridge Avenue #150 Annapolis, MD 21403
“Every Life Full of Giggles Makes the Age Lines Fall Off"
~Marilyn Meberg~
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